isn’t irony delicious?
having spent the last three years functioning as a direct person in a very indirect culture i was under the assumption that–while i learned to function and communicate indirectly–my default communication style was still direct. this morning i learned that i was very incorrect.
i was the solo interviewee in a group of seven interviewers, i felt comfortable and confident in who i am, my purpose for being there and the subject matter. the questions were posed and i answered, albeit with a bit of couching, in what i thought was fairly direct. the answer wasn’t clipped, and i hesitated while searching for words, but felt the answers were fairly straight forward.
this didn’t seem to be the case.
the advice, post interview, was to be more succinct and forceful. to be more decisive. to show “you can be in charge.”
so it seems i adopted and absorbed a bit more karimajong culture than i had originally thought or intended when it comes to communication. before the next round (january) one of my goals is going to be working on becoming a woman of powerful yet few words.post-meeting i was pondering why i seem to talk so much more than i used to–and have come to the conclusion that being drawn into a story-telling culture has influenced how i communicate. its with a lot more words, and a lot more repeating (that part is due to language barriers more than story-telling).
i’ve got some work to do.